Summary
You can read a not-so-short summary of what others think of me.
On one of the future-oriented sites (thanks to Vigh Bori), I read about ideas and action plans for starting your own business. During one of the free mini-courses, the question was asked, “What skill do you have that people praise a lot?” I started thinking about it. The question was about finding the skills in myself that I can base a job on. This is a kind of survey that involves assessing what I am capable of, but I don’t think about it, it’s a bit out of focus. For example, if I am very good at ditch jumping, but I don’t assess it, then I won’t find someone who is looking for a ditch jumper, or I won’t look for opportunities where a very good ditch jumper is offered a job by a ditch owner.
So I started thinking about what other people praise about me. This thought lasted about ten seconds, and then I wrote myself a task to ask a small circle of friends. They might see things differently, and mention things differently, based on their own perspective.
I wrote them the following message:
The responses started coming in. I sent this message to the ones who responded within a few days:
And then let’s eat this cookie shrouded in anonymity.
Dear Soma!
It's an interesting idea how we see you, I see you. Although I haven't known you for too long, I still feel close to you and I'm glad you've included me among your friends. 🙂
Getting to the point, I consider you a very educated, direct, sensitive, and attentive person.
I appreciate the fact that as a man you are concerned with yourself, with self-knowledge and are willing to change, to change things. I think and I feel that now that your children are adults, you are truly facing a turning point. Just as I experienced a different path, you need to look for a slightly different goal in your life. I think you should let go of making decisions based on Excel spreadsheets a little and listen to your intuition more. 😉
You are one of the few people I can open up to and honestly accept reality without sugarcoating it.
You are able to bring out the best in people and I think that's the point.
I hope I was able to help with my answer and that life doesn't take you too far.
I hug and kiss you with sincere love, and I wish you perseverance.
It's an interesting idea how we see you, I see you. Although I haven't known you for too long, I still feel close to you and I'm glad you've included me among your friends. 🙂
Getting to the point, I consider you a very educated, direct, sensitive, and attentive person.
I appreciate the fact that as a man you are concerned with yourself, with self-knowledge and are willing to change, to change things. I think and I feel that now that your children are adults, you are truly facing a turning point. Just as I experienced a different path, you need to look for a slightly different goal in your life. I think you should let go of making decisions based on Excel spreadsheets a little and listen to your intuition more. 😉
You are one of the few people I can open up to and honestly accept reality without sugarcoating it.
You are able to bring out the best in people and I think that's the point.
I hope I was able to help with my answer and that life doesn't take you too far.
I hug and kiss you with sincere love, and I wish you perseverance.
Dear Soma!
Thank you for your letter. Good health is a bit of an exaggeration, unfortunately, there are times when I go to pee 6 times a night, but that's not important right now.
Turning to skills. I think your best skill is that you have time to write such letters. This is truly admirable.
Joking aside. Basically, apart from everyday and/or technical skills, I would like to highlight one thing, your perspective. I think the way you see life, the world and people, and experience them, is a very unique thing. I think in today's world, this is a special "skill".
I hope I was able to help with my answer!
Take care of yourself!
PS: I would like to see the 6K-row excel that evaluates the answers, I hope you process the received answers with a macro and load them into sql right away 🙂
Thank you for your letter. Good health is a bit of an exaggeration, unfortunately, there are times when I go to pee 6 times a night, but that's not important right now.
Turning to skills. I think your best skill is that you have time to write such letters. This is truly admirable.
Joking aside. Basically, apart from everyday and/or technical skills, I would like to highlight one thing, your perspective. I think the way you see life, the world and people, and experience them, is a very unique thing. I think in today's world, this is a special "skill".
I hope I was able to help with my answer!
Take care of yourself!
PS: I would like to see the 6K-row excel that evaluates the answers, I hope you process the received answers with a macro and load them into sql right away 🙂
precision,
accuracy,
purposefulness,
systematicity,
orderliness,
organized,
meticulous,
empathetic,
cheerful,
communicative,
extroverted,
attentive,
can't say no,
distracted,
analytical,
girls say he's handsome - a good guy if he loses weight 🙂
accuracy,
purposefulness,
systematicity,
orderliness,
organized,
meticulous,
empathetic,
cheerful,
communicative,
extroverted,
attentive,
can't say no,
distracted,
analytical,
girls say he's handsome - a good guy if he loses weight 🙂
Hi!
Your empathy and at the same time your objectivity help me a lot. It's nice to talk to you, it helps.
What do I envy you for? Your purposefulness, your openness, the fact that you have brave plans.
Your empathy and at the same time your objectivity help me a lot. It's nice to talk to you, it helps.
What do I envy you for? Your purposefulness, your openness, the fact that you have brave plans.
Are you gathering the materials for a life change? 🙂
Well, here are the skills I see in you:
You are an adaptive personality who, no matter what situation you find yourself in, picks up the rhythm and fits (not adapts!) to the environment.
You are a person who is open to the world without prejudice and does not judge things even after getting to know them.
You are able to find solutions to difficult situations.
You are an entrepreneurial spirit.
I will not write a long list, because the above can be enough to describe a life.
However, pay attention to one thing: every skill and ability can be both positive and negative. (For example: entrepreneurial spirit is positive - thoughtful risk-taking, negative - irresponsible risk-taking). It depends on you which side you experience it from.
Well, here are the skills I see in you:
You are an adaptive personality who, no matter what situation you find yourself in, picks up the rhythm and fits (not adapts!) to the environment.
You are a person who is open to the world without prejudice and does not judge things even after getting to know them.
You are able to find solutions to difficult situations.
You are an entrepreneurial spirit.
I will not write a long list, because the above can be enough to describe a life.
However, pay attention to one thing: every skill and ability can be both positive and negative. (For example: entrepreneurial spirit is positive - thoughtful risk-taking, negative - irresponsible risk-taking). It depends on you which side you experience it from.
well-organized
broad-minded
open to new things
caring
humorous 🙂
persistent
I like talking to him
family-oriented
good musician 🙂
broad-minded
open to new things
caring
humorous 🙂
persistent
I like talking to him
family-oriented
good musician 🙂
Dear Soma!
You made me think, especially about whether I can write a credible opinion about you, since I have known you for a long time, but we rarely meet.
However, if you asked, I will write as I see you, based on the way I know you.
I got to know you as a family-oriented person. I saw you this way during your marriage as well. I think the breakup/divorce was a huge blow for you.
You have been taking care of your children with all your love ever since.
I think you are a good professional who gives everything to complete a given task.
I also think you are sensitive, which is good, but can also be negative at times, it is easier to get hurt…
The fact that you love music, playing an instrument, gives you a lot of experience.
I got to know you as a persistent, good communicator. You could have left our circle a long time ago, but you come and help us, for which I thank you very much.
You like physical challenges. It's not clear to me whether you were like this originally, or whether it's a kind of help in self-esteem after your family crisis, but I definitely see you as someone who pushes your boundaries.
You're a good listener, you open up quickly, and you have a strong opinion about things.
I think that's why you can be a great support to your friends and family.
Finally, I would like to highlight your sense of purpose.
Take all of this as meaning that I don't belong to the circle of people who know me very well.
At the same time, as a pastor, I probably have a better understanding of people than average.
You made me think, especially about whether I can write a credible opinion about you, since I have known you for a long time, but we rarely meet.
However, if you asked, I will write as I see you, based on the way I know you.
I got to know you as a family-oriented person. I saw you this way during your marriage as well. I think the breakup/divorce was a huge blow for you.
You have been taking care of your children with all your love ever since.
I think you are a good professional who gives everything to complete a given task.
I also think you are sensitive, which is good, but can also be negative at times, it is easier to get hurt…
The fact that you love music, playing an instrument, gives you a lot of experience.
I got to know you as a persistent, good communicator. You could have left our circle a long time ago, but you come and help us, for which I thank you very much.
You like physical challenges. It's not clear to me whether you were like this originally, or whether it's a kind of help in self-esteem after your family crisis, but I definitely see you as someone who pushes your boundaries.
You're a good listener, you open up quickly, and you have a strong opinion about things.
I think that's why you can be a great support to your friends and family.
Finally, I would like to highlight your sense of purpose.
Take all of this as meaning that I don't belong to the circle of people who know me very well.
At the same time, as a pastor, I probably have a better understanding of people than average.
Hi Soma!
In short, "slagforts".
Persistent
Yes, excel guru
Maximalist
Dreamer, versus realist. How does that come together?
Realist, because you plan everything, you consistently follow it. At the same time, dreamer in relation to the weaker sex.
In short, "slagforts".
Persistent
Yes, excel guru
Maximalist
Dreamer, versus realist. How does that come together?
Realist, because you plan everything, you consistently follow it. At the same time, dreamer in relation to the weaker sex.
Dear Friend!
What I think about you and your abilities:
You are persistent above all
You are constantly looking for your way and your place, I mean you are always open
Precise is not a good word, but you are damn thorough in what interests you
Maybe you are too self-sacrificing, you should put yourself more in the foreground - in terms of relationships
You are addicted to Excel, I think sometimes you shouldn't spend so much time on it
You always have a good word, no matter how long the poop is
I could say a lot rather than write. For me, one thing that always describes you: you can be a true friend, no matter what!
What I think about you and your abilities:
You are persistent above all
You are constantly looking for your way and your place, I mean you are always open
Precise is not a good word, but you are damn thorough in what interests you
Maybe you are too self-sacrificing, you should put yourself more in the foreground - in terms of relationships
You are addicted to Excel, I think sometimes you shouldn't spend so much time on it
You always have a good word, no matter how long the poop is
I could say a lot rather than write. For me, one thing that always describes you: you can be a true friend, no matter what!
Dear Friend!
My first thought: Waiting for an answer to a self-knowledge question is like waiting for confirmation of a question to which one already knows the answer. Since I do not intend this statement as a criticism, let us now reflect on the abilities of our friend Soma (because there is more of him, after all). In order to try to structure my paper literary-wise, let us start with the more difficult part, so that it ends with a happy ending.
So: I think that in order to formulate an answer to the question, we need to be clear about the antecedents. I admit that I cannot be sufficiently credible in this, since a significant part of your life (and here I mean the intellectual development part) was left out of mine. I base my conclusion on what I have heard, experienced and observed from you in the last 2 years.
You passed the conscious thinking exam with distinction, so you are capable of thinking consciously....congratulations!! In contrast to this, from the emotional (love) relationships curriculum, which I also think is a weak two. Translated into Hungarian, you are able to fall in love with the wrong woman several times in a row. Why? I don't know the circumstances of your choices, only some of the ones you chose. As an outside observer, my private opinion is the following: maybe you give too much of yourself, or you make compromises that look more like compromises, and the feminine will abuse this sooner or later. Unfortunately, this seems to be the norm. I say all this with the knowledge that I have all the respect and admiration for the female gender and especially for one woman in my life. But how could you have managed to do it like this? Well, 50% of the time, you were a bad boy, a truant in a bad way during your time when other good boys were learning about love and female relationships.... whatever. The other 50% of the time, the bad things could very well be the consequences of your actions in previous lives. If you prefer, let's call it karma in the bad sense of the word. Of course, this does not mean that this faulty part cannot be repaired, you just need to know how (I don't know how, I just heard from someone who has seen someone who has heard of such a thing). I am happy to tell you that you also have a wonderful human being, a side rib, a friend, on this earth, in this life of yours, in whom you can deepen and fulfill yourself in the light of your life. You carry all the virtues for this and I do not doubt this for a moment. I think we have eliminated this remarkable ability of yours.
Let's look at another one. Are you a real team player? Yes. Of course, with conditions. If the current team is suitable for it, then definitely. If it is not, then you tend to compromise and assimilate. And if you are already looking for a new "suitable" team, albeit deliberately. I think this is a good ability and a good trait. A good team player elevates the community and at the same time society. What am I talking about, because you know this well.
The ability to constantly be interested in new things, self-improvement, and a constant thirst for knowledge. With age, this kind of intensity of interest in new things wears out and weakens in many of us. Or even disappears. But not with Soma. He is slowly turning fifty, but he is still actively researching, searching, and absorbing knowledge. That's why I don't envy you, but I'm happy to watch from the stands. I'm cheering and applauding from there.
The ability to quickly adapt to the situation. I think your somewhat chaotic life and your 21 moves are a coherent result. Maybe this is the explanation for why you now want to take another life-changing step towards your happiness. A movie about this comes to mind: Hektor in Search of Happiness. It's cute and gets to the point. I recommend it to your attention!. Even though this is a major step, you still take it lightly and energetically.
Rewriting your own boundaries is an ability. Can this be defined in one word? After all, it doesn't matter. I think this is a virtue that only those human beings possess who develop their own personality until their death. Proven with examples: Hunharian Blue Tour, performance tours, cycling around Lake Balaton, writing novels. So what more do you need? Soma will write more about it during her travels.
Precision, the ability to continuously strive for perfection in your actions, is an ability. Well, this can be defined in one word: Perfectionism! Maybe this is the one thing in which we are very similar to each other. That's why there is no need to inflect it any further.
That's all I can think of for now. You certainly have other abilities, but maybe someone else will write about them for you, or about these things in a different way, or with additional words, etc.
My first thought: Waiting for an answer to a self-knowledge question is like waiting for confirmation of a question to which one already knows the answer. Since I do not intend this statement as a criticism, let us now reflect on the abilities of our friend Soma (because there is more of him, after all). In order to try to structure my paper literary-wise, let us start with the more difficult part, so that it ends with a happy ending.
So: I think that in order to formulate an answer to the question, we need to be clear about the antecedents. I admit that I cannot be sufficiently credible in this, since a significant part of your life (and here I mean the intellectual development part) was left out of mine. I base my conclusion on what I have heard, experienced and observed from you in the last 2 years.
You passed the conscious thinking exam with distinction, so you are capable of thinking consciously....congratulations!! In contrast to this, from the emotional (love) relationships curriculum, which I also think is a weak two. Translated into Hungarian, you are able to fall in love with the wrong woman several times in a row. Why? I don't know the circumstances of your choices, only some of the ones you chose. As an outside observer, my private opinion is the following: maybe you give too much of yourself, or you make compromises that look more like compromises, and the feminine will abuse this sooner or later. Unfortunately, this seems to be the norm. I say all this with the knowledge that I have all the respect and admiration for the female gender and especially for one woman in my life. But how could you have managed to do it like this? Well, 50% of the time, you were a bad boy, a truant in a bad way during your time when other good boys were learning about love and female relationships.... whatever. The other 50% of the time, the bad things could very well be the consequences of your actions in previous lives. If you prefer, let's call it karma in the bad sense of the word. Of course, this does not mean that this faulty part cannot be repaired, you just need to know how (I don't know how, I just heard from someone who has seen someone who has heard of such a thing). I am happy to tell you that you also have a wonderful human being, a side rib, a friend, on this earth, in this life of yours, in whom you can deepen and fulfill yourself in the light of your life. You carry all the virtues for this and I do not doubt this for a moment. I think we have eliminated this remarkable ability of yours.
Let's look at another one. Are you a real team player? Yes. Of course, with conditions. If the current team is suitable for it, then definitely. If it is not, then you tend to compromise and assimilate. And if you are already looking for a new "suitable" team, albeit deliberately. I think this is a good ability and a good trait. A good team player elevates the community and at the same time society. What am I talking about, because you know this well.
The ability to constantly be interested in new things, self-improvement, and a constant thirst for knowledge. With age, this kind of intensity of interest in new things wears out and weakens in many of us. Or even disappears. But not with Soma. He is slowly turning fifty, but he is still actively researching, searching, and absorbing knowledge. That's why I don't envy you, but I'm happy to watch from the stands. I'm cheering and applauding from there.
The ability to quickly adapt to the situation. I think your somewhat chaotic life and your 21 moves are a coherent result. Maybe this is the explanation for why you now want to take another life-changing step towards your happiness. A movie about this comes to mind: Hektor in Search of Happiness. It's cute and gets to the point. I recommend it to your attention!. Even though this is a major step, you still take it lightly and energetically.
Rewriting your own boundaries is an ability. Can this be defined in one word? After all, it doesn't matter. I think this is a virtue that only those human beings possess who develop their own personality until their death. Proven with examples: Hunharian Blue Tour, performance tours, cycling around Lake Balaton, writing novels. So what more do you need? Soma will write more about it during her travels.
Precision, the ability to continuously strive for perfection in your actions, is an ability. Well, this can be defined in one word: Perfectionism! Maybe this is the one thing in which we are very similar to each other. That's why there is no need to inflect it any further.
That's all I can think of for now. You certainly have other abilities, but maybe someone else will write about them for you, or about these things in a different way, or with additional words, etc.
And finally, here are some biased, or less biased, answers from my family.
Loyal,
persistent (sometimes stubborn 😊),
helpful 😉
persistent (sometimes stubborn 😊),
helpful 😉
Hello!
This is an interesting question.
I consider you precise, organized.
Someone who goes through things, takes time for them.
However, in the past 10 years of searching for self-knowledge, these 2 qualities/abilities of yours have taken on a new kind of communication method. You close with repetition. With this, you create or want to create order in chaos. You often say the same thing. What you used to keep in a notebook, now you list while talking.
You are a list-maker, I think that's it.
There must be some fancy term for this 😂, but I can't think of it.
This is an interesting question.
I consider you precise, organized.
Someone who goes through things, takes time for them.
However, in the past 10 years of searching for self-knowledge, these 2 qualities/abilities of yours have taken on a new kind of communication method. You close with repetition. With this, you create or want to create order in chaos. You often say the same thing. What you used to keep in a notebook, now you list while talking.
You are a list-maker, I think that's it.
There must be some fancy term for this 😂, but I can't think of it.
Hello!
I think you do these things well:
managing people,
organizing,
thinking in systems, seeing processes,
simplifying processes
creating systems
simplifying anything (be it a thought process or a complicated process, whatever)
recognizing and managing types of people
Your qualities:
Education
Precision
You tolerate monotonous work well
Detailed planning, no rough plans
Above average perseverance
Desire to learn
Flexibility
I think you do these things well:
managing people,
organizing,
thinking in systems, seeing processes,
simplifying processes
creating systems
simplifying anything (be it a thought process or a complicated process, whatever)
recognizing and managing types of people
Your qualities:
Education
Precision
You tolerate monotonous work well
Detailed planning, no rough plans
Above average perseverance
Desire to learn
Flexibility
Hi Soma,
I thought about this answer, and I don't want to leave it without words, but it's hard to articulate what I'll manage to do now 🙂
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And finally - you're almost 50 years old. The B side is spinning. Shut up, I'm telling you it's spinning! 😉 You're going through a less than beautiful divorce. You had a fucking well-put-together house, you sold it. You got another. You had a life, it turned out to be a lie, you survived. You got another, it turned out that this isn't what you want, you have a ready-made idea, I think you'll survive this one too. You've had several jobs, you've done your best wherever you had the chance. To the best of my knowledge, your relationship with your daughters is good. With most of your relatives too - of course there are frictions. And that always takes two sides. You're not chocolate either. That's how it is 🙂
How is this not easy? You don't know how many times I could just scream into the world, because I'm fed up with everything...
So, considering everything I wrote in the previous paragraph, and everything else you might get - Soma, if you didn't know what your abilities were, then you wouldn't have been able to do everything you've done so far.
I thought about this answer, and I don't want to leave it without words, but it's hard to articulate what I'll manage to do now 🙂
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And finally - you're almost 50 years old. The B side is spinning. Shut up, I'm telling you it's spinning! 😉 You're going through a less than beautiful divorce. You had a fucking well-put-together house, you sold it. You got another. You had a life, it turned out to be a lie, you survived. You got another, it turned out that this isn't what you want, you have a ready-made idea, I think you'll survive this one too. You've had several jobs, you've done your best wherever you had the chance. To the best of my knowledge, your relationship with your daughters is good. With most of your relatives too - of course there are frictions. And that always takes two sides. You're not chocolate either. That's how it is 🙂
How is this not easy? You don't know how many times I could just scream into the world, because I'm fed up with everything...
So, considering everything I wrote in the previous paragraph, and everything else you might get - Soma, if you didn't know what your abilities were, then you wouldn't have been able to do everything you've done so far.
To be honest, while I was converting these answers to the correct html format using Excel, I was in tears…
Thank you for loving me like this! I love you all!