There is a famous Hungarian band, their name is 3+2. They have been active since 1975, which means the band is a year older than me. They are representatives of wedding rock, and I must admit, this musical style is not close to me. Still, when I came up with the title of this post, they came to mind.
Let’s listen to one of their songs together, which is my favorite of theirs, and which brings back pleasant memories for me.
Questions to be resolved
My life has recently reached a stage where questions to be resolved about myself have started to line up in my mind. I won’t go into detail about these questions now, but let’s stay with them, I feel like I’ve arrived at another important stage of self-knowledge with them.
I feel pretty close to answering the questions. To be honest, I have even received my own answers to a few of them in the past few weeks.
However, I do not underestimate the importance of questions and answers. I am a coach, I know exactly that we do not always see our own situation clearly from the inside. In such cases, we need another perspective, an outside observer, let’s simply call them a helper. The right answers can be born as a result of joint work. And sometimes the right questions.
Let’s not underestimate the importance of questions, let’s just remember the words of Douglas Adams’ brilliant book, The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy. This book (series) is one of my favorites. If you haven’t read it yet, I wholeheartedly recommend that you start. You will be richer if you understand what it is about!
I need a friend!
I have a professional friend who is very highly regarded, especially a woman. A week and a half ago I visited her, asked her for a little of her precious time.
I told her the situation I was in. I also told her that I needed help again – I’ve had this before in my life. I need that other perspective.
However, I’m at a loss as to who to choose as my helper. I’ve dealt with so many topics in recent years, so many things have arisen on my horizon that I don’t know what the next step should be.
Who should I turn to for help? A psychologist? A coach? A shaman? Maybe a fortune teller? Should I go to a kinesiologist? Should I try family planning? An astrologer?
Some of these made her smile. I’m especially at the end of the line of questions.
But she immediately made a suggestion that I could immediately adopt. Based on my friend’s guidance, I chose two helpers for myself. I kept finding them myself, and the extra one appeared unexpectedly.
Who will be my helpers?
So here are my first three supports in the next stage of self-knowledge:
- TRE® is an easy-to-learn, body-centered method that helps us release tension and stress and return to our body’s natural balance.
- Autogenic training: a method classified as a relaxation therapy.
- Writing and self-knowledge course.
Let’s briefly see what you can know about these methods.
TRE® módszer
Source: https://trehungary.com/mi-a-tre/
TRE® (Tension, Stress & Trauma Release Exercises) is a simple series of exercises that safely activates a natural vibration and tremor in the body, which releases muscle tension, calms the nervous system and supports our body to return to a balanced state. This helps to release the imprints of previous stress, tension and trauma that have accumulated in it.
TRE® was created by Dr. David Berceli Ph. D., an internationally recognized expert in trauma treatment and conflict resolution. Over the past almost three decades, this method has brought immense relief to the lives of many people.
By practicing it, both the physical and psychological effects of stress and trauma can be reduced: anxiety, depression, insomnia, lack of attention, physical pain.
Based on the recommendation of a friend, I contacted the recommended trainer, and I will start the ten appropriate training sessions next week on Friday.
I am eagerly awaiting the opportunity, and I will definitely write about it!
Autogenic training
Source: https://autogen-trening.hu/mi-az-autogen-trening/
Autogenic training is a relaxation technique. If we were to put it more broadly, we would say that it is a more complex method that can be viewed from multiple perspectives and that affects multiple things and our entire body.
Autogenic training means: practicing by ourselves, independently, drawing from our own resources. Doing it independently by ourselves is particularly important because the great thing about autogenic training is that it is not tied to anything or anyone, we don’t need anyone else for it, only ourselves. For this reason, after sufficient practice, it can be done practically anywhere and anytime.
On the one hand, autogenic training is a physical relaxant because it causes our body to relax. With its help, our muscles can be properly relaxed, not only the muscles that can be moved voluntarily, but also the so-called smooth muscles of the visceral organs – which can only be relaxed voluntarily with great difficulty. Autogenic training is therefore a physical tranquilizer.
On the other hand, and just as importantly, autogenic training is also a mental tranquilizer. By relaxing our physical body, it helps our mind to calm down, thus serving as a kind of mental tranquilizer. Since our brain constantly receives feedback about the state of our muscles, it is understandable that relaxed muscles result in a more relaxed mind.
And, which is very important to me:
If we look at it from a very broad perspective, we must say that autogenic training is also a kind of outlook, an attitude towards the world and our own functioning.
Here too, I have contacted the recommended psychologist who can teach me how to use this method. If all goes well, I will start the training, which is also ten sessions, on February 3rd.
I have to repeat myself: I am eagerly awaiting the opportunity, and I will definitely write about it!
Writing and self-awareness course
I have completed the following courses at the Hungarian Writers’ Academy:
- Beginner Writing Course
- Advanced Writing Course
- Short Story Writing Course
- Applied Writing (Blog and Journalism) Course
As a former student, I constantly receive course notifications with ever-expanding topics. Since I’ve just started writing a blog, one of the new courses immediately caught my attention.
I immediately applied and paid the course fee for the five available online courses. The course starts on February 18th.
Based on the questions of who we recommend the course to, you can see what I have undertaken.
We recommend the five-evening literary therapy to those who:
– are about to start over or are currently working on the tasks of starting over
– who would like to use new tools for writing
– who are looking for inspiration, facing a blockage or a block
– who would like to study literary texts from the perspective of their own lives
– who would like to examine their past, the path behind them
– who are not afraid to share their experiences and feelings with a small, discreet group
– who would like to embark on a new journey of self-knowledge through literary, mostly fiction, texts and stories
– who are interested in the experiences and beliefs of others regarding the topic.
I don’t even dare to describe the expectations I have here!
And the encore…
Synchronicity – thank God – does not let me go. It has embraced me, it is here with me and makes my life extremely exciting and colorful.
The country I will go to has not yet been chosen, but Thailand sounds exciting from the first minute, so this part of the world has been in my head for weeks. In the past few days and weeks, I have watched many videos about my possible first stop.
Religion has been around my life since I was a child, it has somehow always been an interesting, often attractive topic for me. I am not a religious person, but in recent years I have attended many worship services, and I have always found peace on these occasions. I have been playing in a Calvinistic band for 10+ years, with whom we serve the congregation with a musical service once a year in the summer. In fact, at the end of the year I also participated in an Advent concert organized in a Catholic church.
I have often thought about the relationship between religion and my life, but I have not yet met God. For example, Christianity is not the religion that is closest to me. I had a colleague from whom I learned a lot about Islam and found it to be an extremely practical and beautiful system. However, what is perhaps closest to me is Buddhism.
Last night, after reading a little about Buddhism, I watched a summary video about Zen Buddhism.
This is where Synchronicity comes into the picture, which again raises the question: is life a series of coincidences? This morning, a book came to my attention on my favorite content provider.
Alan W. Watts: The path of Zen
Here is the description of the book, highlighting the important ideas for me: With the discovery of zen, the world was able to learn about one of the most precious treasures of Asia. Zen Buddhism plays an increasingly significant role in the intellectual life, culture and art of the West, although it cannot be classified into any traditional category of thought. It is not a religion, not a philosophy, not a psychology and not a science. It is the kind of tradition, lifestyle and worldview that could best be defined by the concept of the “Way of Liberation” known in China and India. With its simplicity and directness, it simultaneously encourages the enjoyment of life and the acceptance of death, creating a perfectly homely world for us.
Alan Watts, an English-American philosopher and thinker who died in 1973 and a prominent researcher of Eastern religions, wrote his study in 1957 and is now considered a classic on the subject. His comprehensive cultural-historical insight, clear, perceptive style and clear language – in addition to all the scientific rigor and the critical apparatus that helps deepen the subject – can provide even a reader unfamiliar with the subject with a lasting experience.
I don’t think I’ll turn to religion now. I don’t think I’ll become a Buddhist either, but I’m almost certain that I’ll deal with this doctrine in the coming years. Based on the description and my previous knowledge, the thinking expressed here may be close to me, so I’d like to explore it.
If Thailand is the first possible stop…
At most, I’ll not get to know Thailand’s nightlife first, but I’ll get to know a Buddhist monk first.